The sad truth:
A lot of the world is depressed. Weather it is material depression, clinical depression or depressant abuse depression. There is an increasing flood of depression hitting our world. Below is a list written by someone with depression, that the world should know.
1. We don’t have all the answers; we barely have any.
People with depression typically constantly feel a feeling of helplessness, although this really is quite kind, and for some even helpful. So while asking us for answers is quite considerate, we generally just don’t know.
2. We APPRECIATE Being Alone.
You’ll find that being alone all the time makes it more easy to be depressed. Which may be true, and I am not claiming that, and yes, when we’re at our lowest, being alone can make us feel isolated and ignored; nevertheless sometimes being alone is enjoyment for us. We can be ourselves all locked up in our room, and it can even be pleasing when we do not feel very happy at all.
3. We are Not Consistently Miserable, But We’re Constantly Depressed.
Yes, there is a difference. We’re not always prepared to burst into tears, (though there are days) but we are not happy very often. “How are you feeling?” is also a commonly asked question; and a good one. But when we’re not actively sad, but not happy either, it is possible for us to feel nothing. Nothing at all! As a person, I call it “feeling meh”. Allow me to put it this way: at our happiest, we’re at your “kinda-happy”. When we’re thrilled, we are at your “joyful”. When we are “kinda-happy”, we’re at your meh. And when we are “meh”, we appear depressed. Our ordinary disposition is at a lower “happiness degree” than someone without depression. This might explain why we’re often asked “what’s wrong” when we are not upset.
4. We are Not Accepting of Our Situation.
Depression hurts. It is as easy as that. We do not understand how to end it, eventually we learn how to just hardly contend, but one thing can push us over the border to the point where we are banging our head against a wall howling and hollering just because we forgot to buy new body wash. It seems silly, and it is, and someone without depression can look at that and believe that it is not a big deal, but that is how awful it is. We are only barely coping and any quantity of anxiety could be enough to push us over the border. This isn’t to say that we should be handled differently or that you should walk on eggshells around us; please don’t do that, despite your best efforts it will end up making us feel clumsy and ignorant. This isn’t your fight we’d like is your support.
5. Excessive Sleep Appears Necessary To Us.
We’re so emotionally worn out from all the criticism we receive from ourselves that we’re always exhausted. This really is why we rest all the time, we sleep in, yet we still seem tired when we have slept 14 hours in one day (give or take).
6. Occasionally We Wish To Talk About It, Sometimes We Should Figure It Out Ourselves.
We want your unlimited and undivided attention, when we’re ready to talk to you personally. We still want it, and we know that, although this is not always possible. And yes, we know we are being irrational. Yet, sometimes, we don’t desire to talk about it. Again, the manner we clarify that to you, and also irrational could possibly make you feeling distress. This really is not our intention, please do not take it it is hard for us to tell you how we feel when we don’t entirely understand it. It is important that you understand that the sense of helplessness can be overwhelming. Subconsciously, fixing our own problems (even though we usually can’t) is how we believe we can get rid of that helplessness.
7. Do not Suggest Therapy.
If we indicate it, help us out, talk it through, etc. but do not indicate it. We feel distinct. Proposing treatment will only make us feel crazy, even if that’s really not what you meant. In some specific situations, carefully suggesting a counselor may be useful, however only if the individual doesn’t realize they need help. (Should you plan to try it, it may be beneficial to wait until the person is calm to address this.)
8. We Can Be Quite Touchy. It is just a fact not your fault.
Please notice that these are matters which you should understand, not things that you simply should change about yourself. You can’t solve this, but we can’t always help it can appear like all of it’s pointed at you and how we feel. It is not, we simply are not always sure how to reveal this.
9. Occasionally We Are Interested In Being Cuddled, Sometimes… Do not Touch Us.
It sounds sad but internal isolation is something we get used to. While occasionally we need to curl up and cuddle and be held and holler then feel better, I find that usually we don’t need to be shown any sign of empathy and make an effort to handle it by ourselves
10. We All Know That It’s Hurting You Too, But We Do Not Know What To Do.
The helplessness can be seen by us on your face when you can not help us out, or do not understand what to do, and we are sorry, even though there is nothing we can do.
We feel bungling, different, injured, depressed, and generally helpless constantly. All these fights are internal, whether they came from an external source or not, and really the best thing you can give us is your patience and support.
Note: Not all of these can be true for everyone with depressiom. Everyone’s different, with different levels of depression. You might find that only one or two of these pertain to your loved one. They doesn’t mean they are not depressed. I hope this gives you some better insight into the world of someone with depression. You may not understand it, but to be empathetic goes a long way.